In speaking with couples about marriage and relationships, one thing I often hear about is the long list of wrongs that seems to come out in every argument. Either one spouse or the other (or sometimes both!) often seem to struggle forgetting, even when they say they have forgiven. This is one of the most common hindrances in developing healthy marriages, or relationships in general. There will be cases where abuse or infidelity is present, in which case more extensive conversation is needed. However, in relationships where both parties are seeking God and want to develop a positive relationship with each other, then choosing love will make those lists of wrongdoings disappear.

Have you ever felt like you are constantly reminded of the mistakes of your past? Do you tend to remind others of theirs? The love we learn about in 1 Corinthians 13 clearly states that it keeps no record of being wronged. Therefore, each day is a clean slate on which we can choose what to write. Every sunrise is a new opportunity God is giving us to forgive and forget.

God’s love for us demonstrates this so beautifully. Psalm 103:12 says, “As far as the east is from the west, so far has he removed our transgressions from us.” Then in Psalm 130:3 we read, “If you, Lord, kept a record of sins, Lord, who could stand?” Regardless of what our past holds, we can be sure that, when we confess our sins to God, He forgives and holds no record of it. Let us gratefully accept this great gift and give it to others as well.

Suggested prayer: Thank you, Lord, for your forgiveness which keeps no record of my past mistakes. At times I may find it difficult to truly forgive what others have done, or even forgive myself. But help me experience your love in such a way that that “list” I hold will disappear. Thank you that, in You, I can find grace and freedom. In Jesus’ name, Amen.

1. 1 Corinthians 13:5.